Lets face the fact that sometimes parenthood is hard. Its like being in a small box that gets smaller and smaller until you find yourself in the corner with your head on your knees crying for your own mom. Yes this happens to me at least once a month. Sometimes I just get overwhelmed. Caring for another human being can be really stressful. You are constantly watching what they have in their hands, which direction they are going, what toilet they have their hands in, and is the electric outlet covers on? Also, not to mention that you are always trying to set a good example by watching your language (I pray everyday that my kids first word is not the F-Bomb), and to make sure that you are setting rules as a parental figure. It’s always hard to remember that you are their parent and not their friend.
When parenthood gets to bad it is always important to have a break. Do something for yourself. I really enjoy my time at the gym at nights. It gives me a chance to calm down from the stress of being a father and a parent. Also, I really like to run! I also like to go to football games, hang out with my dad, or just go somewhere alone or with just my wife. You need breaks like this to remind yourself that you are a person who is more than diaper changes and bottle making. Both of these arts I have mastered.
My wife on the other hand is a parent solider. She always spends time with our daughter and hardly ever gets alone time. Sometimes I have to force her to take a break. This past Sunday, I got up with the baby and we went to Starbucks. We did not go just to sip coffee and eat apple sauce, but we went to give Mommy so much-needed alone time. We stayed there for an hour and saw some old friends and after an hour we went home. BrittWhitFun was really happy that she got to take a shower and put on make up without having to stop every five minutes to pick up a kid. Tonight, she is going out with her sister to see the new Hunger Games movie after I get back from the gym. Yes ladies, I am an awesome husband as my wife reminds me everyday.
So I have learned that it is ok to be alone away from your kid and it actually makes you a better parent. You just need to remember that your spouse needs sometime too. Even if they realize it or not.