I really never blog about my relationship with my wife but today is an exception. I have been married to the love of my life for almost six years and I have to say that it has not always been good. I have learned so much from her about what being a husband is and what I am suppose to do. One thing that sticks in my head all the time is to just be a “Simple Husband”
Being a simple husband is just being there when she needs me. To comfort her and to hold her when things don’t always go according to plan. For example, our second miscarriage before we had Evie was devastating and more then likely the scariest day of my life. I just remember sobbing with her in the parking lot of the hospital. Holding her hand as she hunched over in pain. I did not have to say anything but I was just there for her.
Sometimes being a simple husband means you need to stop talking which is hard for me cause I am a very opinionated person. I like to make sure I am heard and that is not always smart. My wife use to come home from her former job and complain and complain and I had to learn to just listen and agree with her even if I knew there was a slight chance she was wrong. It was not always easy but sometimes the best thing you can do is just be an ear.
My wife is a selfless person. She drops everything to help someone. When my car broke down last weekend she rushed herself and the kids to get down to the beach to help me. She did not ask questions or argue with me. She made her way to get to me. To be there for her man. It ended up being a good time with our little family and to be honest she kept me sane. I think I thanked her like 20 times for coming and saving me.
I am not always good at being a simple husband. I like to stay in my own feelings and not listen. I struggle everyday to be better. It is a process and one I have yet to master. I love my wife and I am a very happily married man but like anything in like it takes practice and work. I never want to be one of those husbands who quit trying. I will always try cause my wife and my little family are worth it. I will always strive to be a simple husband.