Seven years ago I drove up to my future wife’s house to take her on our first date. The date went great and she explained to me that she had a kid and that they were a package deal. I thought she was crazy and my first instinct was to run and then I met him. It was her dog named Tanner. I embraced him and as we dated he became mine also. My love for him grew along with the love I had for his mother. People think that the love for animals is stupid but I think they are crazy. The love you have for animal just shows you are human and that you care.
As the years went by, I married his mom and built a life with her. The three of us shared and apartment on the third floor where sometimes it got cramped and he did not get the exercise he deserved. He still never left our side. He was there to greet us when we came home from work and always slept on my wife’s side of the bed.
Soon we moved into our first house and it did not include a backyard for him to run and play but he did not seem to care because he was with us. After being moved in for a few months, we became pregnant for the first time but lost the baby. As we morned the loss he laid on the floor next to us as we cried. Another few months later we became pregnant again with or oldest daughter and Tanner stayed by my wife’s side. He followed her around, waited for her to get home, and always laid under her feet at the dinner table. When we brought our oldest daughter home he became obsessed with being with her. When she would nap he would sleep next to the window so he could watch over her. Anytime she was on the ground he let her push, pull and jump on him. He never once snapped at her or growled. She was his to watch over.
We felt the need to have a bigger home so we built one close to our rental and soon we moved in. We welcomed our second daughter. I had just lost my father and was sad. Tanner came and put his head in my lap. I look back on this memory as he was trying to tell me it was ok. I lost my mother last year and he still was there to cheer me up. He always had a way making me feel better.
This past weekend Tanner had an obstruction in his stomach and surgery was not only expensive but it was risky due to him being so old. My wife and I had to deal with the difficult decision to put him down. As the vet came into the room she understood and never made us feel like it was not the right thing to do. She was so supportive. They brought him in and he laid there on the floor. My wife and I gathered around him and said goodbye. We told him thanks for being part of our family. Thanks for loving our children. Thanks for always loving us. I thanked him for letting me be his dad.
As the vet administered the vaccine my wife laid on the floor with him holding his head as he drifted to sleep in her arms. It was a moment that was so surreal. The vet check his vitals and looked at me and said he was gone. All I could think about was how this furry creature came into my life along with the woman I love and changed it forever. I have known him as long as her and was not ready to experience a world without him. He was apart of my package deal. We sat there as the vet gave of some time and hugged him. We took his collar off and kissed him goodbye.
Tanner was a huge part of our family. He was apart of our story. He was the best dog in the world. He was loyal, patient, and kind. He protected us from sadness. He watched over our children. He was my wife’s first child. I think the vet put it best…
“He is a great dog. You know how I know? He is golden.”
This week has been crazy. Last week was crazy. I think I have come to the reality that vacation is in my near future. Work and kids have seemed to have swamped my life and is just enough to keep in purgatory.
Work has been insane. Magazines are keeping me busy and my reps always need me. It is a good thing to busy in this day and age. I know a lot of people who have easy jobs until their organization gets smart and cuts them off and now they are struggling to find employment. I actual just got the biggest section of the year put on my lap this week. Living Here is the biggest section The Charlotte Observer publishes. It has one 300 advertisers in it so I have the lucky job to coordinate this publication with only three months of experience. If that is not trust I have no idea what is. It is a great opportunity but I am scared out of my mind. I have a lot of people putting their faith in me to no screw this up.
My wife is a superstar. I can’t ever say that enough. She is like super mom. I really don’t know how she does it and she works full time. The past few weeks we have ad a run of bad luck it you could say that. My truck broke down. The freezer went out and most not the meat that was in there had thawed out so I had to toss it. Then the battery in the truck died so I had to replace it. It has just been one thing after the other.
This weekend we are planning to get away. We have not had a day trip in a couple of weeks so we decided to head up to Lake Lure. We have never been there and are looking forward to exploring and will make a great blog entry next week.
Hope you all have a great Thursday and I will be back on Monday with another #MedalMonday so take care.
This Fourth of July was just like any other. I feel I do the same thing every year. Maybe that is a good thing.
I started off the holiday with what I do best…a workout. This workout was not like the one we did last year but I like that it was different. The past few months I have been doing my own thing and it was great to do a workout with the class.
You and your partner complete the following with one partner working at a time. 20 minute cap
Run 1,6oo meters at 400 meters at a time while other partner holds 115 pound bar overhead. If they drop it then they do 5 lateral burps.
150 wall ball shots while other partner holds deadlift weight of 205 pounds. With time remaining do max reps of toes to bar or weighted sit ups.
It was a hard one but I managed to only have to put the bar down twice. That is a big win for me.
After that I came home and had my shower, helped my wife clean, and played with Evie. K-Dub went to the parade with her grandparents. My wife went to the store to pick up dinner and to later pick up K-Dub. While she was gone I put Evie down for a nap and just laid on the couch.
When my wife and K got home we headed to the pool for some cool off time but it was short lived as a storm headed in. Thank goodness It did not last long.
After we changed I made burgers, hotdogs, cut up some strawberries and watermelon, boiled some corn, and made homemade ice cream. We invite my MIL to come over and hangout for a couple of minutes.
Soon fireworks started popping off so we sat out in our driveway and watched them before sending the kids off to bed. My wife and I even had on matching T-shirts.
All and all it was a great low key holiday. I hope this blog entry did not bore you too bad. Sometimes you just need a simple day at the house.
I can’t believe it is July! Wow! Where has the year gone? We have spent much of our time in the car this year as you could tell. We have been asked by a lot of our family where are we going this weekend? The answer this past weekend was the beach…again.
When my wife and I were dating we spent a lot of time on the beach. We love it. We don’t go down to eat at fancy restaurants or to shop. We go down there and plan our butts in a chair and stick our feet in the sand and relax. That is a real beach trip. This past weekend was no exception.
We decided to head down to Holden Beach. Its our families beach and we love every minute there. It is nothing special but very special to us. We came down and dropped our stuff off at Nana’s and headed to the beach.
It was crowded, being July Fourth weekend but we managed to find a great parking spot and walk to the beach access. The beach was crowded but we did not mind. We set up camp and let the kids go wild. The water was rough. VERY rough. It was so rough that it knocked you down. We still had a great time.
After changing in the parking lot we headed back to Nana’s house.
We went to the Seafood Barn because I wanted fish.
You also can’t come to Holden Beach without getting some ice cream.
I love these little trips of ours and I hope that even though our Nana is selling her place that we can continue this tradition of being little beach bums.
This Sunday is Father’s Day. I am very excited but just like the past two years I am sad. It is hard to believe my dad has been gone three years this October.
It is a crazy feeling not having parents. You have no one to call and just talk to about things. My dad was a great listener. He would not give his two cents unless you asked. He would tell me if I was wrong, tell me it would be ok, and he always told me he loved me. He was my rock in many ways. Now I sit here and I catch myself listening to his voicemails and how he would always start them off with “Hey Tyler, Its your Dad!” like I did not know who I was talking to.
I read about the latest political scandals going on and all the things that President Trump is doing and I know that if my father were alive he would have a field day. I always told my dad to start a blog. It would have been a great blog full of his personal insight. My dad was very opinionated so his blog would have been an amazing read.
My dad always loved movies and he loved Marvel movies. Every time one would come out he raced to the theater on opening night to be one of the first to see it. Sometimes he waited for me to go with him. Going to the movies with my dad was one our favorite things to do together. It was our time to bond. Now I may not make it to opening night but I do go and see the newest Marvel every chance I get.
One of the things my dad had that he loved was his truck. He was always so proud of his truck. After he passed away I got it and made it my own but all of his things are still in it. Sometimes when I am driving I reach up and grab his hanging cross on his rear view mirror and say “Love you Dad”.
One thing he loved more then me was K-Dub. I don’t care what anyone thinks but he loved my oldest daughter more then anything. I am 95% sure she was his favorite grandchild. He always came and saw her to play with her. She loved him and still today, she asks me about him. I miss watching them bond. It was something very special. I know that if he was here today then he would love Evie. They would have been great friends.
As the years have come and gone I don’t think missing him ever gets easier. Its just around this time of year I miss having a dad to honor. I miss being able to pick of the phone and call him. He was taken from me so soon and I did not even get a chance to say goodbye. Life is not always far and things happen. People die and it is sometimes ones that are real close to you. My dad maybe be died but his memories are still with me. His advice still guides me, his love is still in my heart. Just when I can’t think of a better gift, he still there to remind me what is most important.
Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there!
Sorry that today’s post is late. My wife and I are in the process of finishing our renovation project in the house. We are in the beginning phases of getting hardwood installed on our first floor, up the stairs and the second floor landing.
Why has this been a nightmare. Shortly after agreeing with the contractor last night we were told that we had to remove all the stuff off the floor of our pantry, hall closet, and dining room. The only problem is that the pantry is overstocked, the hall closet is more of a junk closet, and the dining room is more of a playroom with a ton of toys in it. It is a little embarrassing to talk about but even Monica Geller had a secret junk closet.
This would be an easy task to accomplish if we did not have appointments on Thursday and Friday night and if we were not planning to leave for the beach on Friday. This is the problem. Last night my wife and I tackled the hall closet and dumped most of it to a temporary home in the garage/home gym. Tonight I am riding solo as the wife is getting her hair done and I have the kids all to myself. My task that I was given was to finish the rest by myself.
This is going to make for a fun evening. Happy Thursday! I think I need more of this…