I have not ran since last November as I have taken this year to build my strength and to take a step back from the competitive running circuit. It has not been an easy thing but I am confident that when it comes time to train I will be ready.
My SIL asked me a couple of months ago if I would like to run a 5k with her as she has gotten a hold of the fitness bug and wanted to do. I said ok as I am never going to turn down a chance to support someone wanting to better themselves.
The race we chose was the Run For Kids Cancer 5K in Ballantyne. The event was cool and there was plenty of stuff for the kids to do.
Soon the race was on and we did good. I ran at my SIL pace and we took our time.
Soon we finished and got some pretty awesome medals. I must say it felt great to once again cross the finish line.
Later that day we celebrated with a bonfire, pizza and s’mores.
This weekend we celebrated Evie with a little party at the park. I had to start my morning off with coffee of course.
My wife worked very hard pulling off an awesome Unicorn themed party. She spent a lot of time on Pinterest and making the decorations. She really is very crafty. The decorations she made turned out amazing and the cupcakes were very cute.
The party got a little damp as unexpected rain started but the kids did not care. They just got their umbrellas and played.
We decided to open presents and Evie had a blast opening them. She got a lot of Minnie Mouse stuff and clothes.
We then sang Happy Birthday to her and ate lots of cake.
It had occurred to me about a month a go that I had not taken any time off since Disney so I decided to take some time off. It also so happened to be Labor Day weekend.
So my wife and I took the weekend and spent time together as a family. It was nice to spend some time together. We went to a few shops, ate at some restaurants, watched Disney movies, cleaned the house, and even my wife did some crafts. It was great to take some time out of the usually day to day and just be a family and relax.
We took the kids to The Disney Store and they lost their minds. They always enjoy going and picking out a new stuff animal. Evie sometimes thinks she can leave the store with a handful of stuff. You have to watch her.
I got some good training in this weekend as it fell on my leg and push day. I am getting stronger heading into week three and my body is changing in ways I am loving. I really do believe I will be show ready on time.
Me and the kids got some much needed naps in.
We even had the nephews over and played with them to get us ready. We will be keeping them in two weeks. One house, two adults and four kids… GOD HELP US! Although I did find out they can be bribed with mashmellows
By the time Sunday rolled around we were tired and spent the day getting ready for the next four days of work and school but we found some time to take fun pictures.
Not a bad way to say goodbye to Summer.
Let me start by saying that I am sorry for not following up on this past weeks blogs. Things have been nuts around the house and and trying to find the time to blog and update you guys has become difficult but I will talk about that later.
Picking up from my previous entry, the past few weeks we were grieving the loss of Tanner and things are still not the same. You would think with all the losses that my family and I have had that we would be come pros with dealing with grief but it still is easy and I have come to the conclusion that it never will be.
Many people know that my relationship with my brother has never been the best and I am not going into much detail about it but just know that we did finally have a talk and decided that we don’t always have to hang out or see each other every day. I can work with this. After mending some fences he invited me to the open preseason Panther game and you know I love my Carolina Panthers!
I had a great time. Too much of a great time and maybe should have never drank that 6th beer. Anyways, I was really glad to spend some time with him and enjoy some football also.
Finally the weekend came along and we had another birthday party to go to. This time it was for my other niece Charlee as it was her birthday. I can’t believe my niece is going to be in 1st grade this year! Where has the time gone?
The party was fun and even I got on the splash pad and got soaked. My girls had a blast and it was great to be around family and friends.
One thing that I never stop doing is learning. I always try to learn life lessons and sometimes I learn thing even when I don’t want to. I have learned that no matter what happens to just forgive and move on. That does not mean keeping the person around but to not let that hurt control your everyday life. Just let it go. Now sometimes it is harder then others and I struggle myself sometimes but you need to let it go.
The other lesson I learned was to stay out of God’s business and other people’s business and just worry about your business. This has helped me at work. When something does not go my way I have to tell myself I cannot control other people and what they do. I can only control what I do and how I react. This is more then likely my biggest lesson to learn.
I have a lot of cool things happening on the blog soon. A lot of fun things with the kids that need a post so stay tuned.
Seven years ago I drove up to my future wife’s house to take her on our first date. The date went great and she explained to me that she had a kid and that they were a package deal. I thought she was crazy and my first instinct was to run and then I met him. It was her dog named Tanner. I embraced him and as we dated he became mine also. My love for him grew along with the love I had for his mother. People think that the love for animals is stupid but I think they are crazy. The love you have for animal just shows you are human and that you care.
As the years went by, I married his mom and built a life with her. The three of us shared and apartment on the third floor where sometimes it got cramped and he did not get the exercise he deserved. He still never left our side. He was there to greet us when we came home from work and always slept on my wife’s side of the bed.
Soon we moved into our first house and it did not include a backyard for him to run and play but he did not seem to care because he was with us. After being moved in for a few months, we became pregnant for the first time but lost the baby. As we morned the loss he laid on the floor next to us as we cried. Another few months later we became pregnant again with or oldest daughter and Tanner stayed by my wife’s side. He followed her around, waited for her to get home, and always laid under her feet at the dinner table. When we brought our oldest daughter home he became obsessed with being with her. When she would nap he would sleep next to the window so he could watch over her. Anytime she was on the ground he let her push, pull and jump on him. He never once snapped at her or growled. She was his to watch over.
We felt the need to have a bigger home so we built one close to our rental and soon we moved in. We welcomed our second daughter. I had just lost my father and was sad. Tanner came and put his head in my lap. I look back on this memory as he was trying to tell me it was ok. I lost my mother last year and he still was there to cheer me up. He always had a way making me feel better.
This past weekend Tanner had an obstruction in his stomach and surgery was not only expensive but it was risky due to him being so old. My wife and I had to deal with the difficult decision to put him down. As the vet came into the room she understood and never made us feel like it was not the right thing to do. She was so supportive. They brought him in and he laid there on the floor. My wife and I gathered around him and said goodbye. We told him thanks for being part of our family. Thanks for loving our children. Thanks for always loving us. I thanked him for letting me be his dad.
As the vet administered the vaccine my wife laid on the floor with him holding his head as he drifted to sleep in her arms. It was a moment that was so surreal. The vet check his vitals and looked at me and said he was gone. All I could think about was how this furry creature came into my life along with the woman I love and changed it forever. I have known him as long as her and was not ready to experience a world without him. He was apart of my package deal. We sat there as the vet gave of some time and hugged him. We took his collar off and kissed him goodbye.
Tanner was a huge part of our family. He was apart of our story. He was the best dog in the world. He was loyal, patient, and kind. He protected us from sadness. He watched over our children. He was my wife’s first child. I think the vet put it best…
“He is a great dog. You know how I know? He is golden.”