Football, Splash Pads, & Life Lessons

Let me start by saying that I am sorry for not following up on this past weeks blogs. Things have been nuts around the house and and trying to find the time to blog and update you guys has become difficult but I will talk about that later.

Picking up from my previous entry, the past few weeks we were grieving the loss of Tanner and things are still not the same. You would think with all the losses that my family and I have had that we would be come pros with dealing with grief but it still is easy and I have come to the conclusion that it never will be.

Many people know that my relationship with my brother has never been the best and I am not going into much detail about it but just know that we did finally have a talk and decided that we don’t always have to hang out or see each other every day. I can work with this. After mending some fences he invited me to the open preseason Panther game and you know I love my Carolina Panthers!

I had a great time. Too much of a great time and maybe should have never drank that 6th beer. Anyways, I was really glad to spend some time with him and enjoy some football also.

Finally the weekend came along and we had another birthday party to go to. This time it was for my other niece Charlee as it was her birthday. I can’t believe my niece is going to be in 1st grade this year! Where has the time gone?

The party was fun and even I got on the splash pad and got soaked. My girls had a blast and it was great to be around family and friends.

One thing that I never stop doing is learning. I always try to learn life lessons and sometimes I learn thing even when I don’t want to. I have learned that no matter what happens to just forgive and move on. That does not mean keeping the person around but to not let that hurt control your everyday life. Just let it go. Now sometimes it is harder then others and I struggle myself sometimes but you need to let it go.

The other lesson I learned was to stay out of God’s business and other people’s business and just worry about your business. This has helped me at work. When something does not go my way I have to tell myself I cannot control other people and what they do. I can only control what I do and how I react. This is more then likely my biggest lesson to learn.

I have a lot of cool things happening on the blog soon. A lot of fun things with the kids that need a post so stay tuned.

What A Holiday Weekend

I think that holiday weekends go by the fastest. I am pretty sure I am correct. I hope everyone had a wonderful Memorial Day weekend and are ready to get back to work. I know that that last part is a little harder to hear. I know I could use another day by the pool.

My little family had a great weekend. We started Saturday by cleaning the house and getting ready for our new furniture to be delivered. We bought a new kitchen table and chairs and a big girl bed for K-Dub. The only problem was that they never put the box spring on our order so we spent a great part of our afternoon tracking down a box spring for her bed. Once we found on at Mattress Firm we got it and K-Dub had her first night in her new bed.

Sunday we got up and had coffee and went to the new Whole Foods that opened up near us in Waverly. I had never been inside a Whole Foods and had read many blogs were people account their own horror stories. I found this place really cool and I can’t wait to go back. The produce was fresh, the hot bar was amazing, and they atmosphere was cool. They even had their own little seating area upstairs. Is it a grocery store, is it a restaurant, or is it a coffee bar? Who knows but it was a neat experience.

After eating lunches and nap times we got ready and went to the first of many to come pool sessions. I think my girls loved it. They enjoyed it so much that when we got in the car to grab dinner they both fell asleep so my wife and I ended up getting our food to go. After super we decided to take the girls for a snow cone in Waxhaw and it was good. My favorite was the cherry margarita.

Monday I went and worked out. I then came home and cleaned up the backyard. My BIL and SIL came over with my nephews and we went back to the pool for a couple of hours. once we got back I put on my Martha Stewart hat and got to cooking. I made baked beans, I grilled some corn and bacon cheddar burgers, cut up a watermelon, and served warm apple pie with some ice cream. The kids enjoyed playing with some bubble guns we got them. We gave the kids a bath before the nephews went home and I passed out.

It was a great weekend and I hope you got to spend some time with your love ones and remember those who served us so we could celebrate this great holiday.

Happy Wednesday!

 

Exploring Charleston

As. you could tell from last weeks posts it was mine and BrittWhitFun’s anniversary. We decided that instead of taking the usually trip to the beach to go somewhere we both have never been. So after some talking my wife decided to book us a weekend in Charleston, SC. I have always heard that Charleston was a beautiful town that was full of local artist, good food, and some great local beer. I have to say that after a long weekend I have never been more sick of food and beer but it the greatest way possible.

We arrived in Charleston Friday afternoon. We were both starving. We decided to stay in Mt. Pleasant cause it was cheaper and there were plenty of stuff to do here also. The first place on our list was some good lunch. After some suggestions from our friends we ended up at Shem’s Creek Bar and Grill. I of course had to try shrimp and grits for the first time and it did not disappoint. We sat near the water and watched people paddle board in the creek. I tried an IPA called Damn Yankee that was very good.

After lunch we headed to Isle of Palms beach. This beach was cool. There were plenty places to park(for a $1.50) and lots of shops. The beach as amazing. The sand was so soft. My wife and I took a long nap on the beach and just relaxed with one another.

Soon it was time for dinner. We headed to our hotel and checked in and then went to Melvin’s Ribs and Que. It was a lot of food and I could not even finish it but it was good what I ate. Then we went to a bar and had some drinks and desert. before calling it a night.

The next day we got dressed and headed to Charleston. We stopped first at Another Broken Egg Cafe. After waiting for a table for an hour and another hour for our food we indulged in a cinnamon roll that was out of this world followed by a Hello Lucy. The food was worth the wait! So good and I wanted to steal there little cute mugs but my wife told me we did not need another one.

After breakfast/lunch we explored the market place. I loved this place cause it was nothing but local artist and chiefs. We bought a few gifts for some loved ones and ourselves and I did manage to get a nice coffee cup. We even found a cool Charleston Christmas store and bought some ornaments for our tree this year.

We managed to find a cool wine bar and sat down and enjoyed a couple of glasses before heading out to see some sites.

The first place we went to was Washington Square Park. This place was so cool and it had plenty of shade. It was behind this beautiful church. After cooling off we headed to Waterfront Park which had an awesome view of the water, a pier, two splash pads, and a water taxi. It was just so neat to walk through.

By this time we were tired so we got to our car and went to Starbucks and grabbed some iced coffees. I fell asleep cause according to my wife I can fall asleep anywhere. True story.

I had made dinner reservations for us at an upscale restaurant called Magnolia’s. So we headed back into downtown and made our way there. We had some great martinis to start us off. We then were seated and indulged ourselves in some fried Mac and cheese and palmetto chesse, which now that I am typing this makes it sound bad for my stomach. My wife got a salad and I got buttermilk fried chicken that was out of this world. I wish I could have stopped myself long enough to take a picture of it. So good.

After dinner we went to the hotel and chilled out for a little and then headed back to Isle of Palms again. This time we just got some ice cream at Ben and Jerry’s and walked on the beach and looked for shells. It started to get dark and we headed back to our hotel for some rest.

I must say it was a great vacation with my wife. It is not every day we get to have some alone time. She did a great job about being away from the girls all weekend. Sunday she was ready to get home and I really can’t blame her. I was missing them also. It was a great anniversary with my love. I still can’t believe we made it to six years and I can’t help but feel we are only getting started.

The Wedding

Here we are. We are finally at our wedding day post. It is hard to believe that this was six years ago and that so much has changed since then. Our marriage is far from perfect and everyday we strive to be better for one another and our children. We love each other very fierce and that has not changed in six years.

To my love, partner, and best friend… I love you and Happy Anniversary! Here is to many more.

The following is from a previous blog entry

Our wedding day was very busy. Brittney and I had a lot of things to get done and a lot of loose ends to tie up. I woke up and my groomsman and I headed over to my parents house for a much appreciated breakfast. My mom made me liver mush and for those of you that have not tried it, it is actually really good.

We then had to leave and meet my father-in-law at the park to set up the chairs and the sound system for the wedding. I waited there while Spencer and Chris left to go and get some cables for the sound system. I stayed there by myself and called my friend Cattie.

Once we were done with that I took the guys to get some lunch and then we headed to my apartment to get our luggage for our honeymoon. We then left there and went to the hotel and got ready.

Once we arrived back at the park, I saw tons of cars of our friends and families. My groomsman and I had to hide in the park bathroom to avoid Brittney and I from seeing each other. After praying with the pastor and having a moment alone with my brother, I was ready to do this.

I headed down to the gazebos where everyone was waiting. I walked my mom down the aisle and kissed her cheek as she took her seat. I had to have my back to the audience as the bridesmaids walked down the aisle cause Brittney did not want me to get a peak of her as she was getting ready to marry me.

I was told to turn around and saw the woman I love in her beautiful gown. It was better than I could have imagined it. I immediately started to tear up at the beautiful sight that was my bride.

After exchanging rings and vows, we were finally pronounced man and wife. We both had a very interesting journey to this day so it was awesome to enjoy this moment we both have been waiting for.

Our reception was amazing. We had great food and music. There was lots of dancing and cake! I remember dancing with my wife for the first time and how I told her that we finally did it, We were husband and wife!

We left our reception, with lots of hugs and kisses from friends and family. I remember looking back as we rode off together and thinking to myself that if I had to do it all again, I would in a heartbeat. Maybe not the same way.

 

How We Got Engaged!

 

In a continuation of honoring my wife this week on the blog leading up to our 6th wedding anniversary, here is the story of how I asked her to marry me.

The following is from a previous blog entry. Enjoy!

I always wondered how when it came time to officially ask Brittney to marry me, how I was going to do it. It was not a shock to our family and friends considering we had a wedding already being planned. I still wanted my future bride to have that moment where the one who loves her more than anything gets down on one knee and look her in the eye and ask the question. Will you marry me?

For sometime I was in the process of trying to finish paying off her engagement ring. I picked it out in May of 2010 but could not get it paid off till January of 2011. I finally just said “You know, I am ready for her to have this and make this official”.

I spent a few days trying to come up with the perfect plan. I was thinking of taking her out to dinner in Downtown Charlotte and then having our families and friends waiting for us at the restaurant, but the only problem with that was it felt kind of dumb cause everyone knew we were planning a wedding.  So then I decided to just let it be the two of us and got that Saturday night and just go for it on the streets of Charlotte.

I got the ring out of “ring jail” on Thursday, January 25 and was really excited. I went to show my mother the ring and she said for me just to do it today and surprise her. I thought it was a wonderful idea.

On the way home to meet her I called her dad and asked for his permission, which again was not needed, but I wanted to do the right thing. He told me to go for it and to have her call him afterwards.

I got to the apartment and told her that my Dad wanted us to look at a catering place for the wedding in Charlotte.  So with so much hesitation from Brittney, we got in the car and headed that way. It was so hard to keep the excitement in. I kept feeling my pocket and she kept looking at me. She later told me she knew I was acting weird.

We got to the heart of Charlotte and started to walk around. It started to rain and I was starting to get nervous looking for the perfect spot.  i found a fountain on the corner of the street. I stopped us and got down on one knee. She asked me what I was doing and I said I was tying my shoe. I then told her I hated the rain and she responded with then get up and lets go.

I looked up and said, “Or I could do this. Will you marry me?”

She was so excited she grabbed the ring from my hand and put it on her finger and said, “Yes!”

We kissed in the street in the pouring rain and started to walk back to the car. I later confessed everything over a cup of coffee while we were between calls to our families.

How I Met Your Mother

So this week is BrittWhitFun and I anniversary! We have been married six years this Saturday! For the next few days I am going to travel back in time and show some old photos from us when we started dating and also telling the stories of how we met and got engaged and finally married.

As many of our friends and family know we met at the local Urgent Care. My mom was my wife’s boss at the time and had been pushing for us to meet. I just went through a really bad breakup and my wife was left at the alter. I know right! Its like an episode of Grey’s Anatomy. I was not one to like being fixed up, especially by my own mother so I declined.

One day I woke up and I knew I had pink eye so I called my mom and she got me in to see the doctor. So I drove to the Urgent Care and sat in my my moms office until I was called to a room.

Once I was in the room and settled, this girl walked in with a red scrub top and curly hair. She could barley look at me and I just could not stop looking at her. She was stunning. As we went through the list of questions we came to “are you a smoker” and I said “yes”. She looked at me and asked, “Does your momma know you smoke?”

I replied and yes and later seen by the doctor. Once I was finished I went back to my moms office and found out I was set up by her. She had a plan all along to have my future wife take me back to the room. I told my mom she was cute and I would like to go out with her but I had to run. I wrote my number on a sticky note and gave it to my mother to give to her.

A few days later she called me and we ended up going out on a date. We talked about our past relationships and what we wanted out of love and life. We found we have very little in common but there was a spark. Soon that spark turned into a fire.

Since that first date we never left each other’s side. She would come to the apartment and eat dinner and sometimes sleep over and then rush home before her dad got home from work. We went to the beach and I met her Nana for the first time. Soon I was dating my best friend and it was not long before I told her I loved her for the first time on Holden Beach Pier.

The rest is history.

My Wife The Superstar

In the spirt of Mother’s Day being this Sunday, I wanted to just write about my amazing wife. I know a lot of husbands gush about their brides but mine is nothing short of amazing.

She is the best mom for so many reasons. Our kids never feel unloved cause my wife makes sure of that. She is always there to listen. She knows exactly what to say when the time comes. Sometimes I am not the best parent and when situations get very heavy I tend to say or do the wrong thing but that is never the case with my wife. She always know what to say and her reaction is always very calm.

She is the best and the there really is no other way to say it. She never misses a event that has our kids in it. She manages me and her family flawlessly. She makes sure we are where we need to be and that we get in our outside activities.

Although she is a servant to her family she never complains. She never ask for anything in return other then us to show appreciation and love and it is easy to do when you have such an amazing person to do life with.

I love this girl more then I did when we first met and man did I fall hard in love with her. I can’t imagine my life without her. She has never left my side. She is my biggest cheerleader and I am excited to celebrate 6 six years of marriage with her next weekend.

Thanks you my love for being the best mom to our kids. They are so lucky to have you and you are killing being a parent. You are a rockstar and we love you. I hope Sunday is everything you want and some more.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there!