Last week I blogged about how my wife has caught the fitness bug and has been watching what she eats and working out every day. It has been nice to spend time with her and that we have something we can do together and be there for one another. It has brought out marriage to another level.
This past weekend my wife decided she wanted to go to the mountains and hike up Chimney Rock, which is near Lake Lure. It is about 2 hours from us. So we packed a cooler and a backpack and loaded the kids up and headed that way early on Saturday morning.
We got there before lunch and just before the crowds came in. We strapped Everly to my back and started to make our way to the top.
My wife did great. She and my oldest stopped a few times to catch their breath. They were a ton of stars. I think I heard someone say about 27 flights and 515 stairs total.
When we finally made it to the top I was very happy for my wife. It was a huge accomplishment for her. She is just starting her journey and I am looking forward to seeing where it takes her. She said she wanted to come back next year and do it again for some before and after photos.
Also the view is stunning…
After we hiked the rock we got some lunch at Medina’s and then played in the river before heading home. It was an awesome day and we will be back I hope really soon.
As a dad, it is hard to watch your kids grow up. I am more then likely not the first person to tell you this as almost everyone said this to me at the time of K-Dub’s birth. It is however true. So true that sometimes you feel like if you blink your kid will be packing their bag and heading off to college. I am being way more dramatic then I need to be but you get the idea.
This week K-Dub is turned four. Wow, four years old. It wont be long before she starts Kindergarten. The other day I was making plans for her party which was Saturday and I could not help but get a little emotional. Its hard to keep it together when you know you are just another year closer to when your oldest leaves you.
I remember the day she was born. It was there day that changed my wife and I forever. Funny how you never knew some much love could exist until you have it bundled up in your arms.
I remember when she first started to walk. Now I can’t keep you from running around Target.
I remember the first time she got sick.
I remember the first time Paw Paw held her
I remember her making Christmas goodies with Maw Maw.
I even remember her first birthday party.
It is so hard to believe she is growing up. Now she loves to be a princess, likes to swing at the playground, get her nails done, wear jewelry and even help Daddy make dinner. She is so special to us and a delight to raise. Sometimes she makes things harder then they need to be. Dinner time is always a fight to get her to eat something other then Goldfish and a cereal bar. She freaks out if she gets the slightest drop of water on her sleeve and must change her shirt ASAP. She only can be a princess when she has a dress on and don’t call her one otherwise. She never wants to go to bed unless you tell her that there is a bath before hand.
Parenting is hard. It just is and no one is better at then others. People just do a better job of hiding it then others. Kids are tough and fearless which is scary. It is a never ending rid that goes way up and then comes crashing down the next turn. I love these moments even though they are hard and I feel like a failure as a dad, I still would not trade them for anything.
Watching K-Dub grow up has been a privilege. Yes that is the word I chose. I could easily have left at any time but I chose to stay and love this little girl. I love teaching her right from wrong, making snacks with her, taking her on special dates, fighting with her about proper shoes for school and punishing her for talking back to her mom. It is all in a days work.
Now she is growing up and one day will not me. Even after I spend three hours of my day off building her a Disney Princess Dollhouse.
Until then I will just continue to enjoy the ride.
The party was a blast. K-Dub had a lot of fun and the day was truly about her. Here are some pics from her party and when we gave her her present.
So this week I was FINALLY on vacation! I mean sometimes you just need to get away. My favorite get away spot is the beach of course. There is something amazing about sitting near the ocean and having the sun hit you in the face as you listen to the waves crash against the shore. Simply peaceful.
Family vacations are always fun but let me just say they are a lot different when you have kids. First and foremost you bring about half your house with you when travel. My wife loves to be prepared for anything at any cost. So I just always expect to bring in about 3 to 4 extra bags when traveling. Also you have to get the kids adjusted to a new place to sleep. This is very challenging. Any parent know this to be true.
My vacation was lots of fun. We spent most of the time in the beach and on my father in law’s boat. So relaxing until the kids and I got sunburned bad. So we decided to head home a day early. Kids can’t have fun if they have to stay inside all day with nothing to do.
My wife had to go to work on Friday so I had both kids on my own for the longest period of time ever. I know what you are thinking. How is your youngest 8 months old and you never had her and your oldest alone for a long period of time? The answer is simple. My wife breast feeds and you are a dick for judging us. It has just never happened. I never thought about until my wife pointed it out the other day. Crazy I know.
So I was so excited to have both my kids. I love my girls. They are the highlight of my life. After Everly got up and I fed her a bottle. We got dressed and headed to my moms for lunch but first I stopped by the store to get an onion for the dinner I was making. I got both kids out and took them in the store with me. Everly was in the buggie and K-Dub was holding my hand. We got our onion and headed to the checkout counter.
This is where my blog title comes into to play. This really sweet lady behind me in line noticed my sweet little girls smile and asked me how old she was. I responded that she was eight months old. She smiled and then said I guess their mother is in the car. I said that she was at work. She then said the most meanest thing to me anyone’s ever said to me since I became a dad. She said, “I bet you can’t wait for her to come home so you can stop babysitting.” I was in shock.
I looked at the nice lady and simply said
“I don’t call it babysitting. I call it parenting!”
This is what bugs me about how the world see dads today. They see us a fat lazy Homer Simpson’s who do nothing but drink beer and make dumb decisions. I am my kids father and I am a damn good dad to them. I can do everything for my kids that my wife can do other then put a boob in my kids mouth. For that I get a bottle. I give my kids a bath, feed them, dress them, kiss their boo boos, read them bedtime stories, and have epic tea parties with them. I am their dad.
Dads are important to a child’s development to. Just like a mother, we are there to teach them right from wrong. To help them become better people is our goal. This Father’s Day lets celebrate our dads cause they are important to and they are more then babysitters. They are our kids example. A son’s first hero and a daughter’s first love.
This will be the second Father’s Day without my dad and I have to say the only way I can honor hi, is by being the best dad to my kids that I can be. To show them that I love them and guide them through life to become better people.
So when K-Dub was born, she was very upset the entire first year of her life. She pretty much screamed and threw fits cause she was having some severe stomach issues. My wife tried to breastfeed her but after about the third or fourth time of us trading her back and forth through the night she was over it. We switched to formula and life was made easier. Formula is amazing but the price on that stuff is crazy.
So when Evie came along my wife said as he wanted to try it again. I was very supportive cause not only were we not going to have to spend $100 a month on powdered food but my daughter was going to get so much more benefits out of breastfeeding. My wife was excited which in turn made me excited. It was a matter of minutes after Evie was born that she got on like she had been waiting for it her whole two-minute life. Breastfeeding was a go! My wife was beyond thrilled.
As the weeks and months went on my wife started to focus on breastfeeding. When I say this I mean she bought a nursing bra, a pumping bra, vitamins to help with her supply, joined an online support group, and even found that Gatorade helps with your milk supply. I of course got the Gatorade on coupon! That was alls she talked about. She was a proud Mom and I could not have been more happy for her.
Can I just say that my wife is amazing. I think I may have said it a few times already in this post. She never gave up and always makes sure she has enough milk to send Evie to daycare with. That amazing liquid has been used for a lot more than feeding. When Evie was sick my wife read to squirt some up her nose to help her breath and it worked. Its amazing what the body can do.
I find it really funny when we are out in public and my daughter needs to eat. BrittWhitFun pulls it out and feeds our child and does not care what people think. You would not believe the looks we get and even by some of our own family members. It does not stop us. Why would you try to hide something that is so natural. People are crazy and I dare someone to tell my wife to put it away. She would lose it.
Anyway, I am so glad that things have worked out some much better this time. My wife has become a rock star of breastfeeding and I am so proud of her. Evie is not missing any meals, trust me!
When my wife and I found out we were going to have baby number two, I was told by friends that having two kids was like jumping off a cliff blind folded. I was scared of having two kids due to the general “will I love the new baby as much as the first?” What if my other kid gets jealous and does not like the new baby? Needless to say my anxiety was getting the best of me.
When our little Evie came into this world this past October, we fell in love with her. She was a much easier baby then K-Dub cause she did not cry from the moment we met her. Evie smiles and does not cry usually unless she is hungry. Even then, it’s a soft cry that just makes you want to kiss those big adorable cheeks. At four months she is almost mastered the art of rolling over and is starting to know who Mommy and Daddy are, mostly Daddy. Yay! S he has been a blessing to our family and we all just can’t stop loving this little sweet pea.
As for the challenges we face with having two kids, bedtime and our morning routine is very hard. My poor wife. She does so much in so little time. Breakfast and dinner cannot happen without a meltdown from K-Dub. Our mornings revolve around Evie’s feeding time while our nights consist of multiple attempts to get Evie to go bed and stay asleep. Lunches and bottles have to be cleaned and packed for the next day. Toys have to be picked up which K-Dub has another meltdown about doing. Potty breaks every 20 minutes. Maybe one day my wife will get to enjoy a hot meal without someone needing to jump on her chest to eat or begging to sit on her lap. She is a good mom and never complains but I know she misses having that time to herself to you know…eat.
We do love our kids and people tell me that this phase will end soon but even though it’s a struggle to get out the door or to finally hit the sack at night, to enjoy it cause your kids are only this small one time. Soon they won’t need you and you will be the lame old people with the ton of rules. Until then I will mop up the meltdowns, rock them to sleep as many times as I have to or can, and smile the entire time I do it.
Ok so really she got here like almost three weeks ago but this is the first second I have gotten to myself to actually sit down and have a thought to what to write.
She was born on Thursday October 8, 2015 at 10:00 am. She was 6.8lbs and about 20 inches long. She had tons of hair. I have a feeling that she is going to loom just like her Daddy.
The past few days have not been easy but also not extremely hard. Since this is my second go around I pretty much knew how to handle everything. My wife is breastfeeding this time and it is going very well. This is new for us cause since K-Dub was a formula baby I could do more for her. With Evie I am limited to diaper changes and the short holding between feedings.
Life with two kids has been interesting. My wife has handled it like a pro due to me having to work long hours and train for my upcoming marathon. She has had the house cleaned, dinner ready and managed to binge watch all of season one of Scandal. She got this!
K-Dub has had some regression which they say is normal. She had had some accidents at school and at home but I think it was for attention. She loves her sister and loves getting in her face. It’s cute.
I am so excited to see how this adventure of being a family of four will work. So far it has been amazing. If it keeps going this good then maybe I can talk my wife into another one!
Here we are! The last few days before our new baby girl comes into the world. I have to say now I am getting a little more excited. I can’t believe it is finally here.
We spent our last weekend getting thing prepared. We installed car seats, cleaned the house, folded the last bit of laundry. We have been busy and we still have things to get done. Time is slowly betraying us and the hospital bag still remains empty, bathrooms still need to be clean, and the load of towels in the dryer continues to whisper to me. I refuse to do it. Maybe I will get it all done an hour before we leave the hospital. Yea that will work.
My wife’s last day at work is today. She is super excited. Everything is about the baby with her. I have to say that the thing I am most looking forward to is her not having the craving for ice anymore. Now I can watch my shows without the sound of gravel being demolished beside me. I am also ready for my wife to stop having so much pain. Our little girl is ready to come out and she is charging through. She does not care at all if her knee is right in my wife’s rib cage.
K-Dub is super excited about her new little sister. She is already playing with her toys and “helping Mom and Dad fold her clothes. She will be the first to tell you she is going to be a big sister. I can’t wait to see how she is going to react once she sees her.
As for me, I am trying really hard to get everything organized at work so while I am out on paternity leave that nothing slips through the cracks. I am ready for my last day and can’t wait to have some time away.
So our house is fully of anticipation right now. Although my big thing this week has been spending as much time with K-Dub before the bay gets here, I have also had to shift some workouts around. I am no where near ready for this marathon but after the baby gets here it’s game on.
Well I am really surprised I have any readers out there at all. My wife actually made the comment to me yesterday that it had been a while since I last blogged. Our little family has gone through some major changes.
In case you have not followed me on social media lately, then you must know that I got an amazing promotion at work and now I am full time! This year has been hard and with the power of prayer and a lot of hard work I managed to score this amazing opportunity. I can’t wait to see what happens next as I continue to grow and learn more about the exciting world of advertising! Now I have to get use to working 8 hours again, fighting traffic, and getting up early.
Also I found out why my leg has been bothering me. My knee started to swell last week and it was really hurting. I found that my knee and entire leg became inflamed. The reason was that I was doing way too much exercising. So now I have cut back on my routine. Now I am just doing my cool down run and my long. run. Today is the first day I feel like I could run again, which is good because my marathon is less then 8 weeks way! So this week I am back to hitting the pavement and I could not be more ready.
We are only 3 short weeks away from Baby E coming! We are in crunch mode as we finish her room, wash her clothes, fold her blankets, and bring out the high chair. Things are changing at our house. As the days get closer I am getting more scared and excited. I am ready to meet her but I am dreading the lack of sleep that any parent will tell you is a real struggle.
There are a lot of things to be thankful for and a lot to be scared about. Thanks to everyone who has kept my family in your prayers and continued to support us. You love and encouragement means the world to us!
I know I might get a few haters after say this but if you really think about it, it’s true… Kids ruin EVERYTHING!
Before you sharpen your knifes and pitchforks, please allow me to explain. We are so close to Baby Everly’s arrival that we have looked at out calendar and found that every weekend leading up to the birth we are busy. There are kids birthday parties, family functions, cookouts, and other things that are keeping us busy. Not to mention my crazy marathon training schedule. After looking at the calendar we realized we where not going to be able to get those annoying maternity pictures you see on Facebook done. You know the ones.
Now I really did not want to do these and I don’t know a guy who would. It’s the end of August and its way to hot out there to stand. Not to mention how in the world was I suppose to expect my two year old daughter to stand there? If she sees a butterfly she is gone. End of story. But, in the epic tug of war of marriage, I decided to suck it up and put on my outfit that was picked out for me and smile.
When we arrived at the shoot location, it was not but I manage to sneak along a water bottle. We got out the car and of course no parent can arrive anywhere without there kid having to pee. Good thing I keep a portable potty in the back of my Santa Fea. While as was gettin out of the car I noticed my kid was crying. She wanted to ride in her stroller.
We put her in the stroller and went to set up outer first shot. Well I don’t know if you ever did a photo shoot with a kid but in my experience, this being the only one, it was horrible. K-Dub was not listening, she would walk off, she wanted to sit in the stroller and be pushed. It was a nightmare.
I ended up being on edge the entire time and wanted to hurry this shoot along. My wife in turn got annoyed with me and it lead to the most tension filled photo shoot ever!
When I get the picture back I will post them and you can see. Have a great day!
I have to say that when the ultrasound tech told us that we were having a girl, I was a little upset. I really wanted a boy and only imagined myself raising a son. I never thought about having a girl. To be introduced to a world of poneytails, prom dresses, PMS, and tampons scared me to death. I grew up in a home with my mother being the only girl so I never had to learn the details of these topics nor did I care to. Everything was about wrestling, football, and superheroes.
When my brother and his wife had my niece I was excited for them. They wanted a child and did not care if it was a boy or a girl. I remember looking in her pretty eyes and thinking how much fun we were going to have. She was my first intro into seeing what it was like having a girl.
After finding out we were having a girl, I had my little depressed moment and then I started thinking about all the fun things I got to do with my niece and now I could take that to the next level with my own daughter. After K-Dub came into this world, I got the pleasure of being the first one to hold her. It was love at first sight. I will never forget it. Over the course of her little shot life I found many reasons I like being her dad and here are a few.
Our conversations: We talk about everything. We talk about daycare, the park, why daddy runs, why Karsyn like Palace Pets, Everly and Mommy. She is really easy to talk to for a two-year old and she is smart as a whip. I let her make decisions like what toy to bring with her on outings and what after daycare snack she wants. We always have a nice talk over oatmeal and coffee (you can guess which one is for who) on Tuesdays and Thursday’s before I take her to daycare. It’s our time to catch up a reconnect. I love it.
She loves me: I know that is a cheap thing to say but it is true. She really does love me. She looks up to me and that’s not only cause she is short. When I am sick she comes over, gets her Doc McStuffin’s doctor kit out and yells “TIME FOR YOUR CHECKUP DADDY!” She loves me even when I am not at my best moments. When I am made at her and want to throw my hands up, she still gives me hugs and wants to sit on my lap and cuddle and watch Disney Junior.
I am her example: This is one I take very seriously. I remember that country song called I’ve been watching you and that song is true. Your kids are always watching you and you are the example they follow. I try to be a good example for my daughter in our house. I want her to look at me an know that this is the correct way for a man to treat a woman. By doing this I hope to install values in her so she does not settle for someone who treats her like crap. When I take her to school in the mornings, I always hold her hand and say a prayer before we leave the car. She needs to know that even Daddy has a relationship with God.
Its fun being her Daddy: That’s really sums it up. I love coming home and playing puzzles with her, playing hide and seek under blankets (she always finds me), reading stories, taking her to new places, and even dressing up and playing princesses. It truly is the best thing ever. I get to teach her how to say cool things like “You got it dude”, or “I drop a deuce”. Also, I never know what she is going to do or say next. Kids are fun!
Now that we are not far from welcoming baby Everly into our family, my only hopes are to be the same for her as I am for K-Dub. To love her no more or no less than K-Dub and to be the best dad I can be to her also. Its scary being responsible for the care for two little people. I am also excited!