Now She Is Five

It is really hard for me to believe that I now have a five year old in my house. She has grown up right in front of me faster then I care to share. Now I just look at her in aw as she is turning into a kind and gentle soul.

I guess I need to start from the beginning as it is February and I am just now writing a blog entry about my daughter turning five, which happened last month. Can you say slacker dad? You see my daughter loves her birthday. We have heard nothing but her birthday party plans since before last summer began. Those plans have changed from a Frozen themed party to an Ariel themed party to now just a simple princess themed party. I am not going to lie I was so ready to dress up like Olaf or come in rocking my amazing Jamaican accent. Anyways, she is obsessed with her birthday. I wonder where she gets that. I mean I love to remind everyone about my birthday starting in October so I can make sure I have a good gift and cake ratio. Ok so she gets it from me. Man you guys really know how to make a guy confess. Just another reason why I could never get away with murder.

It came to the day of and I may have went a little over board with the decorations and making my daughter feel extra special. The birthday crown and matching sash may had been a little to much. What do you think?

My wife really is the grand champion of all things birthday party related. She sent out the group birthday part invitation text, bought all the food, and made sure the house was clean. All I was in charge of was getting the decorations and picking up the cake. These things I knew I could handle.

When it came down to party time. our house got full real quick. K-Dubs friends all came along with her cousins and of course little Evie was right behind them as they ran around the house screaming. I have never heard so many screams of laughter in my life. It was cute but also made it very impossible to carry on a conversation with any of the other adults at the party.

Being there crowd fearing person I am, I worked hard to keep the party moving so after about 30 minutes of mingling around and greeting guest I pushed for it to be cake time.

There is nothing more special to me then when I get to sing happy birthday to my kids. It is just a confirmation that they are getting older and more importantly that I survived another year of parenthood.

Then it was time to open gifts and one of things I have found hard about this is trying to get my kid to say thank you. Here we are surrounded by family and friends and some strangers and the last thing I want people to think is that my kid is an ungrateful monster. Usually when people pass judgement on me based on my children I am quick to point my finger in my wife’s direction but she was in the same boat I was in. Also it is really hard to enjoy my kid opening presents when there are so many kids around her trying to grab her new toy out of her hand and yelling that they either want it or they already have one. Its like watching zombies attack the only human left on earth. I seriously asked my brother for his taser.

After the presents where opened I spent the next hour opening all the presents out of their packaging so my daughter could play them. I must say that the toy companies don’t need to worry about someone stealing their stuff cause they may it very impossible to their toys out. so many rubber bands, plastic twists, and tape make it very impossible. You need a knife to open this stuff.

Finally the party was over and we were left to clean up. I remember just sitting on the couch and thanking the Lord I made it through another party alive. Then I looked over and saw happy my daughter was. I smiled as she came over to me and sat on my lap and kissed me on the cheek. We stared at each other and then she said she wanted a Belle themed party next year!

Help me.

Long Time No See

I can not believe it has been a month since my last post! I must say I have stay off the social media also. It is not that I have been busy but I have taken a break to focus on other things. That does not mean I do not have a load of stories rot tell cause I do.

For starters K-Dub has started Pre-K and she loves it.

We kept our nephews and their dog for a whole weekend and it was fun. It was also very stressful to have four kids and two dogs in the house. It was a lot of tag teaming between my wife and but we managed to prevail. We still had a blast. I can say that it was great birth control.

We spent a lot of time at the park and playing games. We even made s’mores in the backyard.

I been hitting the gym pretty hard over the past 5 weeks and I am really starting to see a difference. I am getting stronger. Now if I could only keep up with my meal plan.

More to come tomorrow.

 

 

 

K-Dub’s Concert

I have no idea why I did not share this a few weeks ago. I must have had a ton of other crazy things going on. A couple of weeks ago K-Dub had a concert put on by her school for the parents. It was her first one in the entire three years she had been there. I was actually pretty excited about going. What is more cute then a bunch of adorable kids singing? Right?

So we got her all dressed up. I left work early to ensure I was there on time. We got to the school and dropped her off at her classroom before going and taking our seats in the auditorium.

Soon it was time to start and the kids came marching in looking all adorable. Soon they started singing. I could not find K-Dub at first. I had to stand a little out of my chair and found that all the other kids were singing and she was standing there with her hands over her mouth. Only my kid. Take a look.

I was not made at her by any means but it was still pretty cute.

She Is Four

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As a dad, it is hard to watch your kids grow up. I am more then likely not the first person to tell you this as almost everyone said this to me at the time of K-Dub’s birth. It is however true. So true that sometimes you feel like if you blink your kid will be packing their bag and heading off to college. I am being way more dramatic then I need to be but you get the idea.

This week K-Dub is turned four. Wow, four years old. It wont be long before she starts Kindergarten. The other day I was making plans for her party which was Saturday and I could not help but get a little emotional. Its hard to keep it together when you know you are just another year closer to when your oldest leaves you.

I remember the day she was born. It was there day that changed my wife and I forever. Funny how you never knew some much love could exist until you have it bundled up in your arms.

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I remember when she first started to walk. Now I can’t keep you from running around Target.

I remember the first time she got sick.

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I remember the first time Paw Paw held her

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I remember her making Christmas goodies with Maw Maw.

I even remember her first birthday party.

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It is so hard to believe she is growing up. Now she loves to be a princess, likes to swing at the playground, get her nails done, wear jewelry and even help Daddy make dinner. She is so special to us and a delight to raise. Sometimes she makes things harder then they need to be. Dinner time is always a fight to get her to eat something other then Goldfish and a cereal bar. She freaks out if she gets the slightest drop of water on her sleeve and must change her shirt ASAP. She only can be a princess when she has a dress on and don’t call her one otherwise. She never wants to go to bed unless you tell her that there is a bath before hand.

Parenting is hard. It just is and no one is better at then others. People just do a better job of hiding it then others. Kids are tough and fearless which is scary. It is a never ending rid that goes way up and then comes crashing down the next turn. I love these moments even though they are hard and I feel like a failure as a dad, I still would not trade them for anything.

Watching K-Dub grow up has been a privilege. Yes that is the word I chose. I could easily have left at any time but I chose to stay and love this little girl. I love teaching her right from wrong, making snacks with her, taking her on special dates, fighting with her about proper shoes for school and punishing her for talking back to her mom. It is all in a days work.

Now she is growing up and one day will not me. Even after I spend three hours of my day off building her a Disney Princess Dollhouse.

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Until then I will just continue to enjoy the ride.

The party was a blast. K-Dub had a lot of fun and the day was truly about her. Here are some pics from her party and when we gave her her present.

Daddy And Daughter Movie Night


After a crazy week at the office and all the stuff going on with my mom I needed a night out with one of my special ladies. She is smart, funny, and loves to carry on a conversation. My wife was busy so K-Dub. 

I really have not seen her lately. With late visits at the hospital I have missed dinner and bedtime with her. So tonight I asked her if she wanted to go on a date with daddy and the excitement on her face was enough to melt my heart. 

We went to the movies and saw The Secret Life Of Pets and it was cute. I bought K-Dub a little kids try with popcorn, candy and a drink and she sat in my lap and did not move. 

Afterwards we went to the grocery store and headed home. She told me that she liked our date and wanted to do it again soon. I can’t wait! 

K-Dub’s Little Adventure

IMG_2892 One of the things I look most forward to as a parent is not planning birthday parties, trips to the park, or hanging around watching cartoons. My favorite thing in the whole world is when someone asks me or my wife if they could take my kid for a few hours.

I know you might think I am a horrible parent and don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with my children. Sometimes I need some time away. Some time to reming myself that I am a human who has interest and a life outside of being a father. I find these times most cherished between my wife and I.

So today my wife and I had the opportunity to have K-Dub spend time with her grandparents. I immediately said yes. Now we only had to deal with Evie and she is by far the easy kid. A meal time with no fights made want to stand up and dance.

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So her Pop picked her up from school and they went and got a doughnut. Then horseback riding farm followed. After that she ate corn on the cob.

What did Mom and Dad do? Ate a nice steak dinner with a baked potoato, had a real conversation about adult stuff, watched TV that was not animated. It was the best 45 minutes of my life.

When K-Dub finally came home she was so happy. She told us all about her adventures with Pop. The it hit me like a ton of bricks. I actually missed her. I missed her a lot actually.

I guess this is a losing battle cause I love my alone time. I crave it, however, I love spending time with my kids and the highlight of my day is dinner and cartoons before they go to bed. I guess my girls have me wrapped around their little fingers.

Monday, Monday, Monday

I have started this new challenge. It is more of a personal one then anything but for a solid 30 days I want to post on this blog. It can be a post about anything and everything as long as I blog about my life and what is going on with my family and I.  Here we go!

Today started with a normal trip to Crossfit MNC. I have been working the past week writing some article for the newsletter about some of the members and conducting interviews. I believe in this gym and the work that Coach Greg has put into it. I am proud to be part of this team. This morning I felt different. I was not feeling the gym. I did not want to be there nor did I want to give it 100%. I have not felt this way in a while. Usually when it comes to a workout I am super excited and pumped but not this morning.

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The workout was “Fran” and let me say that Fran is a bitch! Pardon my language, but it is. There is nothing easy or likable about Fran. For those who don’t know, this is “Fran”:

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You might be looking at that and thinking that it looks easy. I bet you that you never tried it and you can go to hell. Seriously, do “Fran” then come and talk to me and any other crossfitter. I bet you will agree that this workout beyond sucks! I even did the scale reps of 15-12-6 with 75lbs and did pull-ups with a band and it still was hard.

After the workout I headed to the office where I was on my 4th of an 8 day work week. I had worked the entire weekend covering obituaries and it was both easy and down right boring. I guess there is nothing lively about putting in a obit. I spent most of the day catching up my legal ads and making sure my upcoming wedding announcements were paid for. It was a rather busy day and people say the newspaper is dead.

After work and finally getting home I was able to enjoy a nice dinner with the family and play with K-Dub. Evie was asleep before I forgot home. She had been running fever and was sent home early from daycare. She was feeling better after a dose of Motrin and was all smiles.

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I was invited to a reunion for some former employees that I worked with at a little grocery store in Wadesboro on August 20. I have say that I am excited to go and see everyone. Its been over 10 years since I worked there and 5 years since they closed. Where has the time gone?

K-Dub and I watch Ninja Turtles and She showed me where her “Grumpy was and I am still laughing cause it was too cute and funny. That kid cracks me up. Watch this video and try not laugh out loud.


I also finally got my Qalo ring I ordered last week!

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Now that tonight is coming to a close and a thunderstorm is rolling in, I have to say that I am blessed to have such amazing people around me all the time. I know this is a little random but I have to say my family, friends, and gym family make Mondays so much more easier to do. Thanks guys!

Oh, I also wanted to thank all the readers who made this blog number #717 on The Parent Blogger Leaderboard! It feels like number one! You all rock!

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Kids Are Funny


I don’t know why but this picture is so funny to me. I can’t help but laugh out loud every time I see it. My wife sent me this yesterday while I was in the way home. I think the people beside me at the stop light thought I was having an asthma attack. 

My wife was grilling our diner outside when my daughter got off her tricycle and grabbed a take and decided to take our yard. No we do not keep a helmet on her at all times but maybe we should cause she does like to take a leap off the top of the couch. 

Enjoy your Tuesday and a good laugh! 

T. 

My Biggest “Dad-Peeve” 


So this week I was FINALLY on vacation! I mean sometimes you just need to get away. My favorite get away spot is the beach of course. There is something amazing about sitting near the ocean and having the sun hit you in the face as you listen to the waves crash against the shore. Simply peaceful. 

Family vacations are always fun but let me just say they are a lot different when you have kids. First and foremost you bring about half your house with you when travel. My wife loves to be prepared for anything at any cost. So I just always expect to bring in about 3 to 4 extra bags when traveling. Also you have to get the kids adjusted to a new place to sleep. This is very challenging. Any parent know this to be true. 

My vacation was lots of fun. We spent most of the time in the beach and on my father in law’s boat. So relaxing until the kids and I got sunburned bad. So we decided to head home a day early. Kids can’t have fun if they have to stay inside all day with nothing to do. 


My wife had to go to work on Friday so I had both kids on my own for the longest period of time ever. I know what you are thinking. How is your youngest 8 months old and you never had her and your oldest alone for a long period of time? The answer is simple. My wife breast feeds and you are a dick for judging us. It has just never happened. I never thought about until my wife pointed it out the other day. Crazy I know. 

So I was so excited to have both my kids. I love my girls. They are the highlight of my life. After Everly got up and I fed her a bottle. We got dressed and headed to my moms for lunch but first I stopped by the store to get an onion for the dinner I was making. I got both kids out and took them in the store with me. Everly was in the buggie and K-Dub was holding my hand. We got our onion and headed to the checkout counter. 

This is where my blog title comes into to play.  This really sweet lady behind me in line noticed my sweet little girls smile and asked me how old she was. I responded that she was eight months old. She smiled and then said I guess their mother is in the car. I said that she was at work. She then said the most meanest thing to me anyone’s ever said to me since I became a dad. She said, “I bet you can’t wait for her to come home so you can stop babysitting.”  I was in shock. 

I looked at the nice lady and simply said 

“I don’t call it babysitting. I call it parenting!”

This is what bugs me about how the world see dads today. They see us a fat lazy Homer Simpson’s who do nothing but drink beer and make dumb decisions. I am my kids father and I am a damn good dad to them. I can do everything for my kids that my wife can do other then put a boob in my kids mouth. For that I get a bottle. I give my kids a bath, feed them, dress them, kiss their boo boos, read them bedtime stories, and have epic tea parties  with them. I am their dad. 

Dads are important to a child’s development to. Just like a mother, we are there to teach them right from wrong. To help them become better people is our goal. This Father’s Day lets celebrate our dads cause they are important to and they are more then babysitters. They are our kids example. A son’s first hero and a daughter’s first love. 

This will be the second Father’s Day without my dad and I have to say the only way I can honor hi, is by being the best dad to my kids that I can be. To show them that I love them and guide them through life to become better people. 

That’s what fatherhood means to me. 

 

A Little Daddy-Daughter Date


Last week you may remember me talking about how much my oldest daughter hates me and wants nothing to do with me. It really hurt my feelings and to hear that I was not her best friend was life crushing. So I took matters into my own hands and told myself that this was a cry for help and I must answer it. The solution you ask? It was time for a Daddy-Daughter date.

I sat K-Dub on the kitchen counter and asked her if she would go on a date with me. She was so excited that she said yes immediately. From that moment our date was all she talked about. She told her friends and teachers at school and nagged my wife about. I think she just needed some time with her dad. Work has been crazy and training for all these races and The Crossfit Open have really took a lot of my time so I wanted to devote all my time and attention to my little girl.

So Saturday  rolled around and we left and went out to lunch where we sat and gossiped about the peeps from daycare and how much she loved a little boy named Eric, which I was not happy about. We laughed and colored on the kids menu. K-Dub asked me to sit next to her instead of across from her. She hugged me and gave me a kiss. It was amazing.

After lunch we went to get ice cream. She wanted pink ice cream but I got her vanilla and told her it was a light shade of pink. She bought it and started to eat it. We sat and talked some more. The conversation was mostly about Paw Patrol, Frozen, and The Lion Guard. Then an old man walked up to us and stopped. He told me my daughter was cute and that he use to take his daughter out on little ice cream runs. He then explained that it was the highlight of his week when they got to go and do something just the two of them. He said now she is married with a family of her own and that time flies and that I should treasure every one of these moments.

I started to think about what the old man said as I put K-Dub to bed that night. Time is a valuable thing and that one day my daughter will be on her own with her own kids and husband. She won’t be so small to go on dates with me. I need to devote more time to my daughter. Sometimes when you are a parent you get distracted by all the other millions of things you have going on that you let the most important things slip between the cracks.

Since our date, K-Dub now tells me that I have joined the list of her best friends and that she loves me. For those of you who are asking, the list comprises of Pop, Aubrey(her friend from daycare), Eric(her little boyfriend), and me. I maybe last but at least now I am on the list. She is already talking about our next date and I am excited to take her.