Missing Mom

 

I know that this week is Mother’s Day so I could not let this week go by without writing about my mother and what she means to me.

This will be my first one without her and I must say it makes me sad. Its been almost nine months since she left me and I miss her everyday. I miss her always willing to listen. I miss her asking me how “her” girls are. I miss the way she hugged me with the last bit of strength she had left.

Everyday I am reminded of her love for me. Every time I look at my wife I am reminded of how we met. My mom hired her when she ran the local Urgent Care and I was coming in to be seen. I am reminded of her every time I see a coconut cake cause she made the very best!

She was a great mom. She was very stern by always fair. She worked her butt off to give her two boys a life better then her own. She was a fun mom. She always took us to Carowinds, the movies, to baseball and band practice. She would seat dance in the car. Oh she knew how to cut a rug.

One of my favorite things about her was the love she had for her grandkids. I see so much of her in my kids it is unreal. My daughters say and do thinks just like her. Evie has her sassy attitude and Karsyn has her sense of humor. She was always there for them. She loved her girls. She loved Easter cause the girls would come over and she would make Easter baskets with them. She look forward to it every year.

This Sunday is going to be rough and also a celebration. Its going to be rough cause she is not here of course but a celebration about the kind of mother she was and that her legacy is still very much alive in my brother and I. To that I can rest assure that she will always be here in my life.

Happy Thursday and hug your mom tight or call her and say you love her. I wish I could.

Operation: Rescue Daddy

This weekend I was very excited. I was going to have my first guys weekend in a while to spend some time with brother down at Carolina Beach. I was going to drive my truck that I just had lifted and got new mud tires installed. I was going to be a great weekend of camping, fishing, and just enjoying each others company.

Fate had a different idea. I was on the way down Friday night when just when I got into Carolina Beach my truck started to shake and my truck started to smoke. It turns out my drivers side front axle broke and my drivers side tire was slanted.

So my brother came and picked me up and I stayed the night at the camp site. In the morning I called around some auto shops only to find that most were closed for Easter holiday. I finally found one that was opened. I called my wife to tell her what happened and she stopped everything and said she was on the way.

After a couple of hours I was greeted by her and my beautiful girls. She helped me get the car towed to the auto shop. What started as a guys weekend ended up as a little family vacation. We played on the beach.

Me love to beat up the ocean!

We go doughnuts at the famous Wake and Bake Doughnut Shop.

We stayed the night at BrittWhitFun’s grandma’s house at Holden Beach and then got up Sunday morning and played a little on the beach before heading home.

I honestly would not know what I would do without my gals. I love them so much and I am thankful to be a husband and father in this little family of mine. I am a lucky man.

I hope to hear back from the auto shop this week. It looks like this Saturday we will be making another impromtu trip to the beach to pick up the truck… and maybe to a little beach bumming.

Monday, Monday, Monday

I have started this new challenge. It is more of a personal one then anything but for a solid 30 days I want to post on this blog. It can be a post about anything and everything as long as I blog about my life and what is going on with my family and I.  Here we go!

Today started with a normal trip to Crossfit MNC. I have been working the past week writing some article for the newsletter about some of the members and conducting interviews. I believe in this gym and the work that Coach Greg has put into it. I am proud to be part of this team. This morning I felt different. I was not feeling the gym. I did not want to be there nor did I want to give it 100%. I have not felt this way in a while. Usually when it comes to a workout I am super excited and pumped but not this morning.

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The workout was “Fran” and let me say that Fran is a bitch! Pardon my language, but it is. There is nothing easy or likable about Fran. For those who don’t know, this is “Fran”:

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You might be looking at that and thinking that it looks easy. I bet you that you never tried it and you can go to hell. Seriously, do “Fran” then come and talk to me and any other crossfitter. I bet you will agree that this workout beyond sucks! I even did the scale reps of 15-12-6 with 75lbs and did pull-ups with a band and it still was hard.

After the workout I headed to the office where I was on my 4th of an 8 day work week. I had worked the entire weekend covering obituaries and it was both easy and down right boring. I guess there is nothing lively about putting in a obit. I spent most of the day catching up my legal ads and making sure my upcoming wedding announcements were paid for. It was a rather busy day and people say the newspaper is dead.

After work and finally getting home I was able to enjoy a nice dinner with the family and play with K-Dub. Evie was asleep before I forgot home. She had been running fever and was sent home early from daycare. She was feeling better after a dose of Motrin and was all smiles.

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I was invited to a reunion for some former employees that I worked with at a little grocery store in Wadesboro on August 20. I have say that I am excited to go and see everyone. Its been over 10 years since I worked there and 5 years since they closed. Where has the time gone?

K-Dub and I watch Ninja Turtles and She showed me where her “Grumpy was and I am still laughing cause it was too cute and funny. That kid cracks me up. Watch this video and try not laugh out loud.


I also finally got my Qalo ring I ordered last week!

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Now that tonight is coming to a close and a thunderstorm is rolling in, I have to say that I am blessed to have such amazing people around me all the time. I know this is a little random but I have to say my family, friends, and gym family make Mondays so much more easier to do. Thanks guys!

Oh, I also wanted to thank all the readers who made this blog number #717 on The Parent Blogger Leaderboard! It feels like number one! You all rock!

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My Biggest “Dad-Peeve” 


So this week I was FINALLY on vacation! I mean sometimes you just need to get away. My favorite get away spot is the beach of course. There is something amazing about sitting near the ocean and having the sun hit you in the face as you listen to the waves crash against the shore. Simply peaceful. 

Family vacations are always fun but let me just say they are a lot different when you have kids. First and foremost you bring about half your house with you when travel. My wife loves to be prepared for anything at any cost. So I just always expect to bring in about 3 to 4 extra bags when traveling. Also you have to get the kids adjusted to a new place to sleep. This is very challenging. Any parent know this to be true. 

My vacation was lots of fun. We spent most of the time in the beach and on my father in law’s boat. So relaxing until the kids and I got sunburned bad. So we decided to head home a day early. Kids can’t have fun if they have to stay inside all day with nothing to do. 


My wife had to go to work on Friday so I had both kids on my own for the longest period of time ever. I know what you are thinking. How is your youngest 8 months old and you never had her and your oldest alone for a long period of time? The answer is simple. My wife breast feeds and you are a dick for judging us. It has just never happened. I never thought about until my wife pointed it out the other day. Crazy I know. 

So I was so excited to have both my kids. I love my girls. They are the highlight of my life. After Everly got up and I fed her a bottle. We got dressed and headed to my moms for lunch but first I stopped by the store to get an onion for the dinner I was making. I got both kids out and took them in the store with me. Everly was in the buggie and K-Dub was holding my hand. We got our onion and headed to the checkout counter. 

This is where my blog title comes into to play.  This really sweet lady behind me in line noticed my sweet little girls smile and asked me how old she was. I responded that she was eight months old. She smiled and then said I guess their mother is in the car. I said that she was at work. She then said the most meanest thing to me anyone’s ever said to me since I became a dad. She said, “I bet you can’t wait for her to come home so you can stop babysitting.”  I was in shock. 

I looked at the nice lady and simply said 

“I don’t call it babysitting. I call it parenting!”

This is what bugs me about how the world see dads today. They see us a fat lazy Homer Simpson’s who do nothing but drink beer and make dumb decisions. I am my kids father and I am a damn good dad to them. I can do everything for my kids that my wife can do other then put a boob in my kids mouth. For that I get a bottle. I give my kids a bath, feed them, dress them, kiss their boo boos, read them bedtime stories, and have epic tea parties  with them. I am their dad. 

Dads are important to a child’s development to. Just like a mother, we are there to teach them right from wrong. To help them become better people is our goal. This Father’s Day lets celebrate our dads cause they are important to and they are more then babysitters. They are our kids example. A son’s first hero and a daughter’s first love. 

This will be the second Father’s Day without my dad and I have to say the only way I can honor hi, is by being the best dad to my kids that I can be. To show them that I love them and guide them through life to become better people. 

That’s what fatherhood means to me. 

 

Life With Two Kids At Four Months In

IMG_0250When my wife and I found out we were going to have baby number two, I was told by friends that having two kids was like jumping off a cliff blind folded. I was scared of having two kids due to the general “will I love the new baby as much as the first?” What if my other kid gets jealous and does not like the new baby? Needless to say my anxiety was getting the best of me.

When our little Evie came into this world this past October, we fell in love with her. She was a much easier baby then K-Dub cause she did not cry from the moment we met her. Evie smiles and does not cry usually unless she is hungry. Even then, it’s a soft cry that just makes you want to kiss those big adorable cheeks. At four months she is almost mastered the art of rolling over and is starting to know who Mommy and Daddy are, mostly Daddy. Yay! S he has been a blessing to our family and we all just can’t stop loving this little sweet pea.

As for the challenges we face with having two kids, bedtime and our morning routine is very hard. My poor wife. She does so much in so little time. Breakfast and dinner cannot happen without a meltdown from K-Dub. Our mornings revolve around Evie’s feeding time while our nights consist of multiple attempts to get Evie to go bed and stay asleep. Lunches and bottles have to be cleaned and packed for the next day. Toys have to be picked up which K-Dub has another meltdown about doing. Potty breaks every 20 minutes. Maybe one day my wife will get to enjoy a hot meal without someone needing to jump on her chest to eat or begging to sit on her lap. She is a good mom and never complains but I know she misses having that time to herself to you know…eat.

We do love our kids and people tell me that this phase will end soon but even though it’s a struggle to get out the door or to finally hit the sack at night, to enjoy it cause your kids are only this small one time. Soon they won’t need you and you will be the lame old people with the ton of rules. Until then I will mop up the meltdowns, rock them to sleep as many times as I have to or can, and smile the entire time I do it.

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#PregnancyProblems Weeks 13 to 18

Well we finally made to the reveal of the gender of our second child. I have to say that this pregnancy has left me wondering if maybe this time around I was going to be having a son. My wife has been very sick all the time, She has craved sour pickles, her belly was what seemed to me, carrying the baby very high. All signs were pointing to a boy.

We decided that we were going to wait and find out with our family. We had the ultrasound tech place the gender in a sealed envelope and we gave it to a trust friend and that went and bought silly string. After covering the cans so we would not see the color, they were placed in a gender natural bag and stapled it shut.

We gathered our family around at the local park. We provided doughnuts and water but we knew that the only thing they cared about was what was in the bad. After handing out the can we stood together and counted down. 1…2…3… SPRAY!!!!

 

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It was revealed that we were going to have a… GIRL!!!!

Yes another girl! I have to admit that I was a little upset. I swore up and down that this one was going to be a boy. I think that it would have been great to have a boy cause it would have been a new adventure for my wife and I. Unfortunately, the world had other plans for us. I have to say that as I sat and thought about it, I am actually really excited about having another girl. K-Dub loves me to pieces and I she is really a Daddy’s girl. So as of today I am ok with another girl.

As for a name, Everly Mae will be joining our family this October. We are already so in love!