Seven years ago I drove up to my future wife’s house to take her on our first date. The date went great and she explained to me that she had a kid and that they were a package deal. I thought she was crazy and my first instinct was to run and then I met him. It was her dog named Tanner. I embraced him and as we dated he became mine also. My love for him grew along with the love I had for his mother. People think that the love for animals is stupid but I think they are crazy. The love you have for animal just shows you are human and that you care.
As the years went by, I married his mom and built a life with her. The three of us shared and apartment on the third floor where sometimes it got cramped and he did not get the exercise he deserved. He still never left our side. He was there to greet us when we came home from work and always slept on my wife’s side of the bed.
Soon we moved into our first house and it did not include a backyard for him to run and play but he did not seem to care because he was with us. After being moved in for a few months, we became pregnant for the first time but lost the baby. As we morned the loss he laid on the floor next to us as we cried. Another few months later we became pregnant again with or oldest daughter and Tanner stayed by my wife’s side. He followed her around, waited for her to get home, and always laid under her feet at the dinner table. When we brought our oldest daughter home he became obsessed with being with her. When she would nap he would sleep next to the window so he could watch over her. Anytime she was on the ground he let her push, pull and jump on him. He never once snapped at her or growled. She was his to watch over.
We felt the need to have a bigger home so we built one close to our rental and soon we moved in. We welcomed our second daughter. I had just lost my father and was sad. Tanner came and put his head in my lap. I look back on this memory as he was trying to tell me it was ok. I lost my mother last year and he still was there to cheer me up. He always had a way making me feel better.
This past weekend Tanner had an obstruction in his stomach and surgery was not only expensive but it was risky due to him being so old. My wife and I had to deal with the difficult decision to put him down. As the vet came into the room she understood and never made us feel like it was not the right thing to do. She was so supportive. They brought him in and he laid there on the floor. My wife and I gathered around him and said goodbye. We told him thanks for being part of our family. Thanks for loving our children. Thanks for always loving us. I thanked him for letting me be his dad.
As the vet administered the vaccine my wife laid on the floor with him holding his head as he drifted to sleep in her arms. It was a moment that was so surreal. The vet check his vitals and looked at me and said he was gone. All I could think about was how this furry creature came into my life along with the woman I love and changed it forever. I have known him as long as her and was not ready to experience a world without him. He was apart of my package deal. We sat there as the vet gave of some time and hugged him. We took his collar off and kissed him goodbye.
Tanner was a huge part of our family. He was apart of our story. He was the best dog in the world. He was loyal, patient, and kind. He protected us from sadness. He watched over our children. He was my wife’s first child. I think the vet put it best…
“He is a great dog. You know how I know? He is golden.”
I can’t believe it is July! Wow! Where has the year gone? We have spent much of our time in the car this year as you could tell. We have been asked by a lot of our family where are we going this weekend? The answer this past weekend was the beach…again.
When my wife and I were dating we spent a lot of time on the beach. We love it. We don’t go down to eat at fancy restaurants or to shop. We go down there and plan our butts in a chair and stick our feet in the sand and relax. That is a real beach trip. This past weekend was no exception.
We decided to head down to Holden Beach. Its our families beach and we love every minute there. It is nothing special but very special to us. We came down and dropped our stuff off at Nana’s and headed to the beach.
It was crowded, being July Fourth weekend but we managed to find a great parking spot and walk to the beach access. The beach was crowded but we did not mind. We set up camp and let the kids go wild. The water was rough. VERY rough. It was so rough that it knocked you down. We still had a great time.
After changing in the parking lot we headed back to Nana’s house.
We went to the Seafood Barn because I wanted fish.
You also can’t come to Holden Beach without getting some ice cream.
I love these little trips of ours and I hope that even though our Nana is selling her place that we can continue this tradition of being little beach bums.
This weekend was very busy as all our weekends are. It seems that my wife and I are busier then ever. We spend most of our weekends trying to hurry and get the laundry and cleaning done on Saturday morning so we can have fun a relax the rest of the time off we have together. This weekend was no different.
My wife had her company BBQ on Saturday at one of her doctors horse farms. It was a heart little BBQ complete with games, kegs of beer, pony rides, and lots of food. Naturally I headed to the keg while the kids played games. We mingled through the crowd. I talked to an old classmate from high school for a bit. It was nice. It was also VERY HOT. As the sweat started to bleed through my shirt I knew it was time to leave. I think the girls had fun.
After we got home and got the chance to dry off, my SIL E came over and watched the kids for us so my wife and I could go out and have a nice dinner just the two of us.
It was nice to get away with my love and stuff our faces with chicken, steak, and chocolate cake. It was not on my approved eating clean diet but well worth it.
Sunday was a blur. We went to the Another Broken Egg Cafe and had a great breakfast that reminded me a lot of our Charleston trip. Then we went home where the kids took a long nap, my went to the grocery store, and we relaxed at the pool for a couple of hours.
After getting the kids settled for dinner my wife asked me to pick up some Sabor Latin Street Grill for dinner so I headed up to Wesley Chapel. Once I got our food and started to climb in my truck I heard a rip. I looked down and my shorts had ripped all the way down the seam of the crotch.
Besides ripping my pants my weekend was great. I would be lying if I said that has never happened to me before. I hope your weekend was as fun and crazy as mine was.
This Sunday is Father’s Day. I am very excited but just like the past two years I am sad. It is hard to believe my dad has been gone three years this October.
It is a crazy feeling not having parents. You have no one to call and just talk to about things. My dad was a great listener. He would not give his two cents unless you asked. He would tell me if I was wrong, tell me it would be ok, and he always told me he loved me. He was my rock in many ways. Now I sit here and I catch myself listening to his voicemails and how he would always start them off with “Hey Tyler, Its your Dad!” like I did not know who I was talking to.
I read about the latest political scandals going on and all the things that President Trump is doing and I know that if my father were alive he would have a field day. I always told my dad to start a blog. It would have been a great blog full of his personal insight. My dad was very opinionated so his blog would have been an amazing read.
My dad always loved movies and he loved Marvel movies. Every time one would come out he raced to the theater on opening night to be one of the first to see it. Sometimes he waited for me to go with him. Going to the movies with my dad was one our favorite things to do together. It was our time to bond. Now I may not make it to opening night but I do go and see the newest Marvel every chance I get.
One of the things my dad had that he loved was his truck. He was always so proud of his truck. After he passed away I got it and made it my own but all of his things are still in it. Sometimes when I am driving I reach up and grab his hanging cross on his rear view mirror and say “Love you Dad”.
One thing he loved more then me was K-Dub. I don’t care what anyone thinks but he loved my oldest daughter more then anything. I am 95% sure she was his favorite grandchild. He always came and saw her to play with her. She loved him and still today, she asks me about him. I miss watching them bond. It was something very special. I know that if he was here today then he would love Evie. They would have been great friends.
As the years have come and gone I don’t think missing him ever gets easier. Its just around this time of year I miss having a dad to honor. I miss being able to pick of the phone and call him. He was taken from me so soon and I did not even get a chance to say goodbye. Life is not always far and things happen. People die and it is sometimes ones that are real close to you. My dad maybe be died but his memories are still with me. His advice still guides me, his love is still in my heart. Just when I can’t think of a better gift, he still there to remind me what is most important.
Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there!
This past weekend was my nephews birthday party. No they are no twins but their birthdays are like two weeks apart so my SIL like to do one big birthday party and to be quite frank, I do not blame her.
So the theme for their party was superhero. Man I wish I had boys so I could do cool themes like this. You can only be a princess so many times before you want to move on.
The party was so much fun and very hot as the whole thing was outside on my FIL’s farm. I love that farm. They have a ton of land and it is so peaceful unlike the loud suburbs we live in. To start things off we indulge ourselves in watermelon, funny cut shaped PB&J sandwiches, chips, and deli meat pinwheels. My SIL knows how to party.
After we ate, we began to to tractor rides around in the field.
And horse rides for the kids…
and adults..meaning me.
Then we had some really good cake.
I think my nephews had a great party. I am looking forward to spoiling them this coming weekend at the beach.
I think that holiday weekends go by the fastest. I am pretty sure I am correct. I hope everyone had a wonderful Memorial Day weekend and are ready to get back to work. I know that that last part is a little harder to hear. I know I could use another day by the pool.
My little family had a great weekend. We started Saturday by cleaning the house and getting ready for our new furniture to be delivered. We bought a new kitchen table and chairs and a big girl bed for K-Dub. The only problem was that they never put the box spring on our order so we spent a great part of our afternoon tracking down a box spring for her bed. Once we found on at Mattress Firm we got it and K-Dub had her first night in her new bed.
Sunday we got up and had coffee and went to the new Whole Foods that opened up near us in Waverly. I had never been inside a Whole Foods and had read many blogs were people account their own horror stories. I found this place really cool and I can’t wait to go back. The produce was fresh, the hot bar was amazing, and they atmosphere was cool. They even had their own little seating area upstairs. Is it a grocery store, is it a restaurant, or is it a coffee bar? Who knows but it was a neat experience.
After eating lunches and nap times we got ready and went to the first of many to come pool sessions. I think my girls loved it. They enjoyed it so much that when we got in the car to grab dinner they both fell asleep so my wife and I ended up getting our food to go. After super we decided to take the girls for a snow cone in Waxhaw and it was good. My favorite was the cherry margarita.
Monday I went and worked out. I then came home and cleaned up the backyard. My BIL and SIL came over with my nephews and we went back to the pool for a couple of hours. once we got back I put on my Martha Stewart hat and got to cooking. I made baked beans, I grilled some corn and bacon cheddar burgers, cut up a watermelon, and served warm apple pie with some ice cream. The kids enjoyed playing with some bubble guns we got them. We gave the kids a bath before the nephews went home and I passed out.
It was a great weekend and I hope you got to spend some time with your love ones and remember those who served us so we could celebrate this great holiday.