My Perfect Father’s Day

Just when I think my little girls could not surprise me anymore, they do. I had a great Father’s Day and thanks to my girls and my amazing wife, I was showered with love the entire day.

I woke up to “Happy Father’s Day” from K-Dub, which was followed by lots of hugs and kisses. After we got dressed they handed me their homemade cards. Nothing is better then a homemade card.

I was taken to my favorite breakfast spot which is Stacks in Waxhaw. If you ever go I suggest you go early as the line can get crazy. We stuffed our faces with pancakes, French toast, and hash browns and bacon. So good and so worth it!

After breakfast went on our usual Sunday Target run to get some things for the week and my wife bought me some new clothes. When we got home, I left with K-Dub and went to see Cars 3. It was a great time with just the two of us. I spoiled her with candy and popcorn and she soaked up every minute with me.

When we got home we went swimming for a couple of hours at the neighborhood pool and then went home where I made my famous Mac and cheese with fried squash and cornbread. It was yummy! Then I was treated to Pelican’s Snowcones in Waxhaw. This place is so good. They over 50 flavors and it is very affordable. I got cherry margarita and blue raspberry. So good.

I loved my Father’s Day. I got to spend it with my girls who I love more then anything in this world. Being a dad is the best job I could ask for and one that I never take for granted.

My Best Friend Dad.

This Sunday is Father’s Day. I am very excited but just like the past two years I am sad. It is hard to believe my dad has been gone three years this October.

It is a crazy feeling not having parents. You have no one to call and just talk to about things. My dad was a great listener. He would not give his two cents unless you asked. He would tell me if I was wrong, tell me it would be ok, and he always told me he loved me. He was my rock in many ways. Now I sit here and I catch myself listening to his voicemails and how he would always start them off with “Hey Tyler, Its your Dad!” like I did not know who I was talking to.

I read about the latest political scandals going on and all the things that President Trump is doing and I know that if my father were alive he would have a field day. I always told my dad to start a blog. It would have been a great blog full of his personal insight. My dad was very opinionated so his blog would have been an amazing read.

My dad always loved movies and he loved Marvel movies. Every time one would come out he raced to the theater on opening night to be one of the first to see it. Sometimes he waited for me to go with him. Going to the movies with my dad was one our favorite things to do together. It was our time to bond. Now I may not make it to opening night but I do go and see the newest Marvel every chance I get.

One of the things my dad had that he loved was his truck. He was always so proud of his truck. After he passed away I got it and made it my own but all of his things are still in it. Sometimes when I am driving I reach up and grab his hanging cross on his rear view mirror and say “Love you Dad”.

One thing he loved more then me was K-Dub. I don’t care what anyone thinks but he loved my oldest daughter more then anything. I am 95% sure she was his favorite grandchild. He always came and saw her to play with her. She loved him and still today, she asks me about him. I miss watching them bond. It was something very special. I know that if he was here today then he would love Evie. They would have been great friends.

As the years have come and gone I don’t think missing him ever gets easier. Its just around this time of year I miss having a dad to honor. I miss being able to pick of the phone and call him. He was taken from me so soon and I did not even get a chance to say goodbye. Life is not always far and things happen. People die and it is sometimes ones that are real close to you. My dad maybe be died but his memories are still with me. His advice still guides me, his love is still in my heart. Just when I can’t think of a better gift, he still there to remind me what is most important.

Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there!

My Biggest “Dad-Peeve” 


So this week I was FINALLY on vacation! I mean sometimes you just need to get away. My favorite get away spot is the beach of course. There is something amazing about sitting near the ocean and having the sun hit you in the face as you listen to the waves crash against the shore. Simply peaceful. 

Family vacations are always fun but let me just say they are a lot different when you have kids. First and foremost you bring about half your house with you when travel. My wife loves to be prepared for anything at any cost. So I just always expect to bring in about 3 to 4 extra bags when traveling. Also you have to get the kids adjusted to a new place to sleep. This is very challenging. Any parent know this to be true. 

My vacation was lots of fun. We spent most of the time in the beach and on my father in law’s boat. So relaxing until the kids and I got sunburned bad. So we decided to head home a day early. Kids can’t have fun if they have to stay inside all day with nothing to do. 


My wife had to go to work on Friday so I had both kids on my own for the longest period of time ever. I know what you are thinking. How is your youngest 8 months old and you never had her and your oldest alone for a long period of time? The answer is simple. My wife breast feeds and you are a dick for judging us. It has just never happened. I never thought about until my wife pointed it out the other day. Crazy I know. 

So I was so excited to have both my kids. I love my girls. They are the highlight of my life. After Everly got up and I fed her a bottle. We got dressed and headed to my moms for lunch but first I stopped by the store to get an onion for the dinner I was making. I got both kids out and took them in the store with me. Everly was in the buggie and K-Dub was holding my hand. We got our onion and headed to the checkout counter. 

This is where my blog title comes into to play.  This really sweet lady behind me in line noticed my sweet little girls smile and asked me how old she was. I responded that she was eight months old. She smiled and then said I guess their mother is in the car. I said that she was at work. She then said the most meanest thing to me anyone’s ever said to me since I became a dad. She said, “I bet you can’t wait for her to come home so you can stop babysitting.”  I was in shock. 

I looked at the nice lady and simply said 

“I don’t call it babysitting. I call it parenting!”

This is what bugs me about how the world see dads today. They see us a fat lazy Homer Simpson’s who do nothing but drink beer and make dumb decisions. I am my kids father and I am a damn good dad to them. I can do everything for my kids that my wife can do other then put a boob in my kids mouth. For that I get a bottle. I give my kids a bath, feed them, dress them, kiss their boo boos, read them bedtime stories, and have epic tea parties  with them. I am their dad. 

Dads are important to a child’s development to. Just like a mother, we are there to teach them right from wrong. To help them become better people is our goal. This Father’s Day lets celebrate our dads cause they are important to and they are more then babysitters. They are our kids example. A son’s first hero and a daughter’s first love. 

This will be the second Father’s Day without my dad and I have to say the only way I can honor hi, is by being the best dad to my kids that I can be. To show them that I love them and guide them through life to become better people. 

That’s what fatherhood means to me. 

 

The First Father’s Day 

  

Today is going to be hard. They say the first is always the worst but then you find a sense of a new normal. I can tell you to not have a father to buy a card for, take to lunch, buy a present, or even to call sucks. I hate it. 

All week I have dreaded today. I have held back the tears. I have even tried to pretend it was just another day. I am angry. Angry that he left me with no warning. Just one day he was gone. I miss him greatly. 

So instead of crying and feeling sad, I have a little girl who wants to spend some time with her dad. She wants to spend time with me. She wants to give me kisses, presents, cards, and she wants to call me “Dad” cause she does not know how to make a phone call yet. We will eat lunch together which may be chicken nuggets but I  ok with that. As long as we are together. 

Maybe since this is the first one without him it could be the new normal. 

Happy Father’s Dad! I know you are cheering me on up there in Heaven! Love you! 

My Second Father’s Day!

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We’ll this is my second Father’s Day and it has been amazing. This is a very important holiday for me. It’s a time to celebrate all things DAD. I love being a dad and it’s one of jobs I take very seriously. It’s not so much of a job as it is a pleasure. The love you have for your child is one you would never trade not could ever explain. It’s always great to spend this one day a year to celebrate a man’s love for there child and everything they mean to them.

This morning I was awakened by my wife and daughter with smiles and kisses. I love those kisses. They are the best. Soon we went downstairs and my wife made me a special pancake breakfast. Then she gave me a nice big card the K-Dub made me that said “#1 DAD”. It was the best I could ask for.

My wife then surprised me with a trip to Starbucks on the way to church. She just knows how to make me feel special.

Now we are taking a trip that I will explain in my next entry. I am very excited cause I am in vacation for the next week and it’s a week full of fun and family time. Both are what this guy really needs.

So happy Father’s Day to all those other wonderful dads out their. Those blogger dads I follow, members of the Dads Round Table I follow on Twitter I just wanted to say happy Father’s Day. You guys are awesome and I would not be the dad I am today if it was not for support.

Also I can’t forget the dads I see on a regular basis who mean so much to me.

My father-in-law Ken who has showed me time and time again what it means to be a true family man and that nothing is more important.

My brother-in-law Spencer who is the best dad for my nephew. His work ethic is off the charts and is just a proven example that with a lot of hard work anything is possible.

My brother Brian who is the best example of a husband and father. My nieces are so lucky to have you. You are amazing and selfless.

And finally my dad who is my best friend. The one I can tell anything to. You have helped me so much over the years and your advice is treasured and needed. You are wonderful grandpa to K-Dub and I love you.

Happy Father’s Day Dads!

My First Father’s Day!

First let me say that i am so sorry that i have been away from my computer so long. i have had a lot of stuff happen in the past month. I have become an uncle for the second time as you can see the pictures above of my sweet nephew Holden. I have also been busy with some new interest that I can’t wait to blog about. I just want to touch base with you all and share my experience as I celebrated my first Father’s Day.

I woke up pretty early cause my 4 month, who turns 5 months on Friday, was placed on my chest. She had a canvas the said Happy Father’s Day and a card. She even had that sweet smile that I am so madly in love with. My wife of course helped her decorate he canvas and come up with the sweet words that were written in the card. it was perfect and I could not ask for a better present. 

After getting showers and playing while watching Sophia The First on Disney Junior, we took my dad out for lunch, and as you can see in the pictures above, he and Karsyn had a great time. I love my dad and he really is amazing. He is like my best friend and we have so much in common. He is always there for me and my family. He may have been absent when I was younger but he was there for me when I had my sweet girl. He is the best grandpa. 

After lunch we went to Brittney’s sister’s house and made ice cream with the new homemade ice cream makers that Brittney’s dad bought Spencer and I. Spencer is my brother-in-law and Holden’s dad. We ate ice cream and talked about the babies and enjoyed an afternoon photo session. 

All and all My first Father’s Day was the best. I look forward to many more. I am so glad to be the father to such a pretty little girl who brightens my day with her big smile. I just wish she did not grow up so fast.