I have been MIA the last few months cause I have been dealing with a medical issue that has consumed my entire life.
Back in September I went for a routine check up with my primary care doctor. I just expected the usual you are healthy and I will see you in six months type of visit. What I got was not that but only to be told my blood pressure was high. I was 32 at the time and I never would have thought I would have a blood pressure issue. The doctor told me to monitor it for 30 days and get back to him with my results. After 30 days there was no change so he put me on a low dose of blood pressure medication. After another 30 days of no change he told me it was time to see a cardiologist. After he said that I knew this was serious.
When meeting with the cardiologist, she insisted on me having a echocardiogram done to see if there was something wrong. When the results came back they informed me that they saw something but but they were not sure what it was. They wanted me to have a TE done at the local hospital. A few weeks later I went to the hospital to have my TE done and afterwards was told by the doctor that I had a bicuspid valve, and also a hole in it that was causing the blood that should be pushing out, to fall back into the valve. The only thing that was going to fix this was open heart surgery.
At this time if you were telling me about having open heart surgery then I would have laughed in your face and then cried my eyes out as soon as you left the room. It was scary to hear and even more scary to think about. I was beside myself and my faith was shaken to the core. How does this happen to me? I eat right and exercise and stay active so why me?
After an amazing trip to Disney World, I came back from Florida ready to just get it over with. I took the spare time and planned my estate and had all my funeral arrangements taken care and my life insurance papers ready just in case something was to fall to the wayside. I know this sounds dramatic but I needed to make sure my wife and kids were taken care of. I packed my hospital bag the night before and laid in bed but only slept for an hour.
The day of surgery came to be completely honest I don’t remember a whole lot. I had to be at the hospital at 5:00 in the morning and prepped and I remember going back and being outside the OR. I was talking to the nurses and then I woke up in recovery at Midnight on Tuesday. It was the best sleep of my life. I remember only wanting something to drink and they saying no cause they did not want me to choke. It took me about 30 minutes before I even thought to look down at my chest that had a long piece of tape over the incision. Soon after I was all together they moved me into a room on the cardiology wing of the hospital.
The one thing I remember from past experiences with loved one who have had this surgery is that it is important to get up and walk so that is what I did. I got up and walked 3 laps around the department the first day, 10 the next, 15 the next and 25 the next day. Soon my appetite came back I was starting to feel like myself again. I spent a total of 7 days in the hospital before being discharged home. I went that long without seeing my kids cause they had a ban on small kids due to flu season. I was so happy to see them.
I am still in recovery. I am still not able to drive. I still cannot lift anything over 10 pounds. I have home health come in about 2 to 3 times a week. I am getting better. This week my wife went back to work so I am doing things for myself which is good so I can get back in the groove of things. I am doing better.
I must say that the only thing that made pushed me through this recovery was how my friends and family gathered and help my wife and I. I need to thank the following:
My wife’s job showered her with gift cards, casseroles, and even donated time off to her so she could get paid while being out with me.
To all the friends, coworkers, and family that came to the hospital the day of and the days after to check on me and see how I was doing and making sure I was in good spirits.
To my sister in law Kate for going way above and beyond for my wife and I. She made a meal train, setup a Go Fund Me, spent the night the day of surgery to take our kids to school, spent the day at the hospital and then came back to visit me. She brought food to us and has even picked me up to get me out of the house since I can’t drive. I know there is more and right now I can think of the rest but it was well appreciated.
My brother for coming to the hospital and spending time with me and then also mowing our nasty backyard. You are the best brother and I love you more than you know.
To all the great people who brought us food. I don’t know all of you but thank you so much for taking time to either make something for us or picking something up. You made our lives easier and made us feel loved.
For everyone and anyone that sent us money to help us make ends meet while I have been out of work. We really appreciated it and we can’t thank you enough for your kindness. Words cannot express how thoughtful it was.
Finally, I wanted to thank all the friends, family, and strangers who took time to send a message, make a phone call, send a email and for the prayers. I am a firm believer in the power of prayer and I know that the outcome of this medical issue would have been a lot different without your prayers so thank you so much!
Now that the surgery is over and I am recovering I am ready to get back to normal. I know I have a long way to go before I will be 100% again. I have my good days and my bad days but now I am having more good days latley. I am starting cardiac rehab soon which I am excited about. I have joined an OHS Support Group. I will be able to dive again in about another week so YAY! I am ready to hop back on my bike and ride as the weather will be getting warmer soon and to hit the road and run more and get my butt back in the gym. I am happy to be alive and happy that I made it out of such a dramatic ordeal. Since so many people helped my wife and I out during this I want to do the same for someone else. So if this situation has taught me anything is that kindness goes a long way and we should help one another out as much as possible. Thats what I plan to do.